The One Resolution You Should Make
I am telling you this as a friend. A really good, loyal, honest, virtual friend.
I know that right now you’re thinking about the year ahead and all the things you should do. I am willing to bet some of them have something to do with exercise. Or diet. Or staying away from your phone.
I think you should forget all that.
I think you should resolve to strive for something more meaningful this year. Something that may actually make a difference beyond January 10th. Something that, I hope, will set you on a path this year that will last for years to come.
The diet and the exercise and the phone will always be there to work on.
But this year, this moment, you should work on you.
Resolve to make 2016 the year of you. Not the year you were the best mom or the best employee or the best wife or the best friend. Not the year you were 10 pounds lighter or read more books or cooked more (though all those things would be lovely…).
Make it the year you were the best you.
I am not here to tell you what that means or what it looks like. I can tell you that for me, it has meant working a little less and living a little more. Finding creative outlets and treating them like a job, not a luxury. It has meant putting time and effort into having real, meaningful conversations with my husband on a very regular basis. It has meant patting myself on the back for everything I have accomplished and everything I still have on my to-do list. It has meant becoming one hundred percent truly comfortable with alone time. Quiet alone time. Not just because I am given a break from my typically busy, loud life, but because I can relish how it feels to be alone and not just appreciate it, but enjoy it. It has meant living my life guilt-free whenever and however I can. It has meant not worrying as much about diet or exercise or my phone. It has meant worrying more about the world around us and how it’s impacting my children and my parents and my closest friends and plotting how exactly I am going to make a difference in it. It has meant learning to say no, without remorse or guilt, just because. And saying yes just as often.
Yes, in a sense it may be seen as a laundry list of resolutions. But in practice, it’s so much more. It’s not about putting effort into many little things, it’s about focusing on one: becoming the best me that I can be. I am still working on a lot but I know I’ve made great strides. And with a new year and the blank slate that lays before us, I know I can do even more.
I may still eat too much or exercise too little and I know I still spend too much damn time on my phone, but most importantly, I know that I am the best I can be. For right now, for this chapter of my life.
And it’s a path I look forward to walking for many years to come. I hope to see you somewhere along it, too.
Resolve to make this the year of you.
Happy 2016. And thank you, as always, for taking a moment out of your day to spend it with me. xx