“I can’t get sick.”
“I can’t miss this call.”
“I have to make this meeting.”
“I need to be at a school thing.”
“We can’t be late for drop off.”
“I have to make dinner.”
But what if you didn’t?
What if you let your body get sick? Treated it to a whole day – maybe even two – in bed with nothing but Ina Garten reruns, a stack of magazines and a cup of hot tea?
What if you missed the call (with a little advanced notice, of course) and opted for a tiny bit of free time in your day instead?
What if you skipped the meeting and let your co-worker fill you in?
What if you opted out of volunteering for the parent committee this once and someone else picked up the slack?
If you wandered into class five minutes late and slightly (but not really) disrupted circle time, buying yourself a few extra moments of peace at home?
What if you ordered pizza?
Here’s the truth: 2013 hasn’t been all that good to me thus far. I have been battling seemingly endless health issues (nothing too serious, thankfully, but still annoying enough to disrupt my day-to-day), my work has been more unpredictable than I prefer, goals seem unattainable, friends are going through rough times, there is a general “bad day” vibe that I can’t seem to shake, no matter what day it is.
And I realized that I haven’t been giving in enough.
This supermom/woman/career gal thing is amazing and inspiring and fun…and exhausting. And sometimes, I need to learn how to take the super out of the equation and just be a mom/woman/career gal of normal proportions. One who gets sick and skips a workout, who opts for pizza over veggie stir fry, who says no to a project when she should maybe say yes but she knows it’s a no, who waltzes into the school art show…without having volunteered one minute of her time.
I think it’s admirable and exciting that we are all striving for more in our lives than women ever have. I love wanting it all and (most days) having it all and I truly believe women have the means and the knowledge and the drive today to get it all.
But some days, it’s nice to strive for a little less. To opt out. To give in a little more.
I think it’s the only way to keep yourself sane and healthy and grounded. I think it’s the only way you can really balance everything, have fun and find happiness.
I think if you just give in once in a while, you might get back so much more.
So tonight, my friends, there will be takeout.
*image above via here*