I Don’t Know How She Does It – Shelie Herman & Samantha Hackett
Shelie and Sam kick my ass about three or four times per week. They are the owners of my local The Dailey Method studio where they not only teach the method’s signature “challenging” (to put it nicely) classes numerous times per week, but run the marketing, finance and operations…all while balancing mommyhood, of course. I have become a TDM devotee in recent months, which warrants a post on its own (which is coming) given how allergic I am to fitness, and it’s in large part to these two women. Watching them prioritize health and wellness and maintain the focus and drive to launch a successful business and then running into them at preschool pick-up toting kids, lunch bags and art projects with a smile firmly in place brings the whole “no excuses” mantra to life…with toned arms, to boot. Now if only I could get through one damn set of thigh work. Here is how they do it:
What time does your day start and how?
(Shelie) With two kids every day is different.
(Sam) Depending on if I’m teaching an early morning class or not. Sometimes it can start at 4:30am, but typically around 6:30. I get up, make daughter’s lunch, get her breakfast ready and then get her up, drop her off at school or camp or I bring her to studio with me, getting there by 8am.
What time does your day end and how?
(Shelie) If you have kids your day never ends…
(Sam) My day ends between 10 and 11pm. If I’m teaching the next morning I go through my class right before bed so that I don’t lay awake in bed and think about it all night.
Do you work from home or in an office? What is the set up like?
(Shelie) I work at home and at the studio. My set up at home is not a setup. I use my laptop. At the studio I am teaching.
(Sam) I have an office in my home. I used to work from the kitchen table, but my hubby recently had a proper office installed for me. I think mainly so he could contain my paperwork and not have to look at it anymore!
Do you see/speak to your kids throughout your work day? If yes, how/when?
(Shelie) Yes, I am a stay at home mom with a full time job. I am with my kids A LOT and I work A LOT. I am not sure if I speak to my kids but I know I yell at them throughout my day…just kidding. Kind of.
(Sam) My daughter was in preschool last year three days a week, half days. When she’s not at school or summer camps, she’s with me in the studio hanging out in the kids room. We have a break in the schedule during the afternoon so that’s our time to go to the beach or park or just spend time together. I’m usually only away from her about 3-4 hours in the morning.
What is the best thing about being a working mom? Hardest thing?
(Shelie) You maintain your identity working and you have something for yourself. I don’t find doing both as hard as being a stay at home mom 100% of the time. Being a stay at home mom 100% of the time is the hardest job I have ever had. Being able to work gives me much needed ME time.
(Sam) The best thing is how much I appreciate the free time I spend with my daughter. Shelie and I have set up our business so that she and I delegate a lot of the responsibilities based on our strengths. That allows us to share the load, which gives us each a good balance of home life and work life. The hardest thing is sometimes I want to sit on the floor and play a game with my daughter, but there are a million work projects that need to be completed. It’s the typical mom-guilt of not feeling like I spend enough time with her.
Be honest, what is one thing you envy about stay at home moms?
(Shelie) Nothing – I was a stay at home mom and I was losing my mind and my sense of identity. I feel very lucky that working was my choice.
(Sam) I was a stay at home mom for three years so I know what I’m missing. I miss lazy mornings when my daughter and I would stay in our PJ’s for hours, playing games or drawing. Things move a little faster now in the morning.
Answer the question “I don’t know how you do it?” in ten words or less.
(Shelie) Find what you’re passionate about and just go for it.
(Sam) I have a wonderful, supportive husband.
And here are just some of the things these stylish mamas are loving right now:
Clockwise from top left:
Surftech surfboards for the kids