What The Most Successful Parents Do Before Breakfast
I came across this story in the New York Times‘ “Motherlode” column from last month about “What The Most Successful Parents Do Before Breakfast.”
The answer? Four coffees? Eggs Benedict? Downward dog?
Nope, you guessed it. Spend quality time with their kids.
It’s all about how those early morning hours that we, as parents, are all granted, can and should be put to better use focusing on your kids and quality interaction before real-life wakes up and takes over your day.
I think we do a pretty good job of savoring our mornings. Kai is usually up before Little D, which means we get some nice solo time with him (we get the same with her in the evenings as he tends to go to bed earlier, it has worked out so well without us even trying).
We do check emails and social media, etc upon waking but once we’ve answered anything pressing and wrapped our heads around what’s to come for the day, it tends to be a nice two hours or so of relaxed, family time.
Disclaimer: we both work from home offices so we don’t need to do the whole shower-blowdry-dress for the day thing right away…or who are we kidding, even before lunch on most days. We do both have to be at our desks by 8:30am though so we don’t have all the time in the world.
But regardless, we don’t make fancy breakfasts that keep us in the kitchen – a bowl of Cheerios, easy-bake Trader Joe’s croissants, a banana, yogurt and multi-vitamin are often on the menu. We don’t turn on the TV to catch up on the news. We don’t drive ourselves nuts pulling together elaborate bento box lunches for Little D (she eats Trader Joe’s pesto pasta most days, it’s five minutes in the microwave and suits her just fine). We don’t worry about what she wears to school – it’s a tshirt and shorts which she picks out herself, we leave a hoodie by the door to grab on the way out and her hair is always in a ponytail, which I have mastered in less than 30 seconds. We often change Kai into his day clothes upon waking so he’s ready to go immediately.
What do we do? Read books. Play with trucks. Talk about what’s to come in the day ahead. Talk about our dinner menu for that night. Maybe a little downward dog, if Kai is in the mood…which he often is.
And even though we may be tired and under-caffeinated and a little preoccupied with the day’s looming responsibilities, it somehow always ends up being the easiest part of the day to navigate.
Which apparently makes us very “successful,” according to the New York Times.
Now if only someone could tell me what those same parents do during the witching hour?