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5 Things You Should Do…For You

2015 January 28
by WWGD

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You know how your kids have homework every day and you spend so much time and effort on it with them, helping them to better themselves and further their education?

Or how your boss has deadlines that you bust your butt for each and every time, in order to build their business and further their growth?

It’s time to do a little homework of your own, friends. Over the next few weeks, I am going to share some ideas of little things you can (and should!) do for yourself, your marriage, your kids, your friendships, etc. etc.

Think of it as a to-do list that requires your time and effort in order to further YOU.

Some of it is stuff I do, some of it is stuff I wish I would do, some of it is stuff I am scared to do.

You can do one thing, you can do them all, you can do none of them.

But take in the process, nonetheless.

Spend the time and the effort to take a look at each list and to think about how you can put yourself back on your to-do list every single day.

Right where you belong.

1) Take a selfie. Yes, I said it. Take a selfie. Take ten if you need to. Find an angle that you love, use natural light if possible and smile. Then look at your face and appreciate every single line, the light in your eyes, the shape of your brows. Find something about that selfie that you love. It could be your skin or your hair or your crooked nose (like mine). Publish it or don’t. That step doesn’t matter one bit. Just love that selfie. But if you do publish it, tag me so I can see and smile, too ;)

2) Say no to one thing. It can be a playdate request, it can be an optional brainstorm at work, it can be making dinner. Say no to one thing that will give your schedule – and your brain – a little breathing room. Even if you’re not feeling particularly stressed or busy or overworked…say no to one thing. Understand the power and control that can come with that one little word and remember that it’s always there for you when you need it.

3) Make a personal playlist. One that you save for those drives when you are all alone, whether they are long or short. Fill that playlist with every song that makes you smile, cry, laugh out loud, and dance in your seat. Think back to the songs you loved when you were a child and your parents controlled the playlist. Remember the one that played at your first high school dance. The one you listened to on-repeat the first time someone broke your heart. The one you danced to with all your best girlfriends at your wedding. Those songs. And keep it aside for yourself.

4) Find time every day for something you love. For me, on most days, that’s writing. Which is why I sat down to write this post. For you, it might be baking. Or list-making. Or pinning wedding bouquets. Or running. But find time for it every day. It can be ten minutes or it can be two hours. Just find time for it every day. On the days you don’t, forgive yourself. And find extra time tomorrow.

5) Give yourself a mental check-up. Take a minute here and now to check in with yourself, honestly. Assess what’s happening in your life, in your head, with your emotions. No need to obsess over it. Some times you may want to act on something, most times you won’t. But just take a look around at this little life of yours and take inventory. Do a little check-up to see what’s working right now, what isn’t, and what, if anything, you want to do about it. Some days it may spawn something bigger and some days it will just be a passing minute. But if you don’t pause for it, it will just keep passing you by.

Love it? Hate it? Tell me in the comments…but be nice, of course ;) And let me know if you try anything out this week…or next. Or the week after that.  

Now Reading

2015 January 26
by WWGD

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It has been a long while since I read a book that I couldn’t put down.

One that made me excited to get into bed at night. One that I carried with me everywhere so I could jump back in at a moment’s notice.

Big Little Lies is one of those books.

This is not an epic, friends. This is not a thought-provoking, life-changing, mind-altering read.

It’s just fun. And fast-paced. And witty. And full of little twists and turns and “never saw that coming” little moments that I love. It’s set in an Australian suburb and follows the lives of several women as they navigate schoolyard politics, mommy wars and behind-closed-doors secrets that unravel throughout the story, sucking you right in.

If that’s your thing, pick it up today. Finish it tomorrow. And let me know what you thought.

On a detour to Big Little Lies, I started Bossypants because I kind of felt like I was the last woman on the planet who hadn’t read it and I couldn’t remember why. A few chapters in, I remembered why. I want to love the whole Tina Fey/Amy Poehler funny cool girl clique as much as most do, but they leave me underwhelmed and dare I say it, kind of annoyed? I started Fey’s book and found myself bored and rolling my eyes here and there and I decided to put it down because life is short and I don’t want to waste it reading books I am not into. I may revisit one day (tell me if it gets better?!) or I may not.

In the meantime, the next one on my list is The Woman I Wanted to Be by DVF. This was a Christmas gift and I am excited to get into it for a little girl power inspiration for the new year. I have things I want to do this year. Ideas I want to take flight. Places I want to see. And I am hoping this book will be a good start down that road. Will let you know.

As always, would love to hear which titles you can’t put down right now and you can see the others on my “Books to Read” board here.

Happy Monday! xx

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Saturday Reads

2015 January 24
by WWGD

Saturday Reads

It has been a minute on these round ups, hasn’t it? Without further ado…a few links I loved this week:

An interview and house tour with Nicole Cari, who handles PR and marketing for Band of Outsiders. Swoon-worthy style all around.

The cast of Mortdecai playing Never Have I Ever with Ellen. Made me laugh out loud more than once.

Jamie and Jeff’s birth plan. With one particularly witty line in there ;)

Calming apps for kids, via GOOP. Bookmark alert.

The recipe I am dying to try this week.

7 Strange Questions That Help You Find Your Life Purpose. My sister has taken to bombarding me with inspirational articles about life and existentialism and career lately. I think it’s for her own benefit just as much as mine. That’s how sisters do things, isn’t it? So you have her to thank for this find.

PS – buy yourself some flowers today. xx

The Style Trick You Need to Try

2015 January 22
by WWGD

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Try a half tuck with your favorite button-down shirt for an instant injection of cool.

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Just let one side hang loose and tuck the other into your waistband.

Stack jewelry on the wrist on the tucked side to balance out the style.

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Throw in a belt if you want to.

Or don’t. That’s ok, too.

And then own that look like you paid a million dollars for it.

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Letting Go to Let Them Grow

2015 January 19
by WWGD

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For my entire motherhood journey – almost eight years, to be exact – I have had a really strong aversion to the kids playroom at Ikea.

You want me to leave my children in the hands of complete strangers so they can get germ infested, potentially picked up and taken home by a stranger and/or suffer a concussion in a multi-colored plastic ball pit?

I think not.

Every time we would walk into Ikea, my kids would glance longingly at the playroom and I would tell them it was full or we couldn’t go because one of them had a cough or mama just wasn’t into it. And they would begrudgingly drag their little bodies through the entire store, whining through each section louder than the last (except maybe the kids’ rooms where I would take over the whining to get them to move on…).

We would all be miserable, but my mama instincts stood firm.

My kids would never go into the playroom.

Then this past Saturday, we ventured to Ikea. We didn’t have a long list, just needed to pick up some essentials and, as always, my kids watched in wonder at the playroom windows while we tried to figure out which route of the showroom we would hit up first.

But for some reason, after almost eight years, in that moment, instead of wandering to a place of paranoia and protection and worry, my mind chose to wander back to my own childhood instead.

To launching my little body into that multi-colored plastic ball pit with sheer glee. To taking in television shows under the watchful eye of a complete stranger. To sniffing out other little kids I had never seen before, in awe of their clothes, their mannerisms, how they played with the same toys I played with every day, but in a different way. To running back into the safety of my mom’s arms when she picked me up, overjoyed to see her and overjoyed for having gone without her for an hour just the same.

I turned to my husband. “Should we let them do the playroom today?”

He practically dropped his jaw on the floor.

The kids held their breath.

I walked over and signed them up.

Part of the process is that they check the kids’ height to make sure it matches their age/size restrictions. Little D was a good inch or two over the “too tall” limit.

The kind care person pretended to look away as she saw her excitement.

“This may be her first and last time in here,” she said sweetly to me under her breath, signing off on her admission form.

Her first and last time to jump in the ball pit.

Her only time.

My kids ran into that playroom and straight for that ball pit. We stood by the window for a moment, watching quietly, a smile on our faces. Then we realized we only had an hour to shop in peace and were wasting it at that window. So we slowly walked away, shopping list in hand.

An hour later, we returned. Kids were still there, as we had left them. No concussions. No germs from the ball pit. Nothing but kind, thoughtful complete strangers who signed them out, checked our IDs, snipped off the matching security bracelets we were all sporting and handed them back over to us, just as we had left them.

Or maybe not quite as we had left them.

They now had a brand new memory stored firmly in their little minds.

Of that brightly colored ball pit. The watchful eye of strangers. The mannerisms of kids they will never see again.

One that I hope they will pull back up in twenty years when they are standing in that exact same spot.

*image above of my littles exploring a ball pit-less beach, taken by my husband. 

My Menu Plan

2015 January 18
by WWGD

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This is one of those weeks that I find tough: a single parenting week.

My husband is traveling for business and no, I don’t think the actual parenting part is particularly difficult on my own (for short stints at a time), but cooking for one plus two littles is a much more complicated task. Preparing meals for my husband and I is far easier than preparing them for myself alone and I typically end up resorting to a lot of take-out and meals on the go when he isn’t around. But this week, I am determined to break that habit and only have one take-out night on the schedule, as always. Wish us luck!

Sunday – making the SkinnyTaste chicken parmesan tonight, because we didn’t get to it last week. Key rule of menu planning: always be willing to break the plan, if needed.

Monday – my kids love drumsticks so rather than roasting a whole chicken for just the three of us, I just grabbed some organic drumsticks instead. Am going to try this recipe for “oven friend” goodness.

Tuesday – our take-out night for the week. Tuesdays are tough with after-school activities and this mama knows when to give in.

Wednesday – my kids are going to have spinach tortellini and I am going to treat myself to this spicy lemon garlic shrimp deliciousness. I say treat because my husband doesn’t eat shrimp so I only ever get to enjoy it when we’re eating out – or he’s thousands of miles away. I’d prefer the former, but will happily embrace the latter this time.

Thursday – homemade pizza. This recipe for crust, always.

Friday – some of our favorite family friends have invited us for dinner. I love new friends that have become just like old friends who know how to have a great time, kids and all. I am bringing dessert and Little D has requested these. Who am I to argue??

Have a great week! xx

*the image above may or may not be the donuts we had this morning. We’ve realized that our neighborhood is quite the haven for mom and pop style donut shops…not a chain to be found. And we couldn’t be happier to support them all ;)

 

One Little Key to Happiness

2015 January 16
by WWGD

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I have been thinking a lot about happiness lately.

As I’ve written before (here, here and here), true happiness was something that evaded me for a big portion of my life. A few years ago, I realized I had found it. And I think realizing that almost made me nervous. The Romanian gypsy blood that courses through my veins was convinced I would jinx it or lose it or realize I was wrong after all…

But I didn’t. I haven’t. And I wasn’t.

The happy is still here, you guys.

No, not in every waking moment. Sometimes not even for days at a time (hello PMS, I am talking to you). But it’s here and I feel it and one thing that I think has had a particularly strong impact on it…is that I am mindful of it all.

I went into the holidays wishing for only one thing: to be mindful throughout the season. To stop and appreciate and revel and enjoy. To take it all in – the good and the not so good. To look around at every little detail and the big impact it may have.

And that approach has carried me into the new year.

I am so overwhelmingly mindful of the things I say, the things I do, the people I spend time with. I am so mindful of the sun in the sky and the warm food on our plates and the world of opportunities we are lucky to have. I am mindful of the songs that make me happy (and play them on repeat), the views that bring tears to my eyes, the moments with my kids that fill me up like nothing else. I am equally mindful of the negative (because don’t get me wrong, it’s there too…). I am mindful of what I see in the news, of what people around me are feeling or saying or thinking, of the things that worry me and why.

I take it all in. I am always mindful. And I am telling you, it has had a tremendous impact not only on my state of mind, but on my happiness.

I came across this 30-Day Minimalism Challenge on Pinterest (here is the full 30 days from its original source) and I wanted to share it here because I think it’s a great place to start. A place to clear your mind. A place to focus your thoughts and your days. A place that may help you to look at the world through a more mindful lens.

Perhaps a place where you may find your happy, too.

Let me know what you think. Happy weekend. xx

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Must-Have: 3 New Kids Lines You Need to Know

2015 January 12
by WWGD

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If you’re anything like me, your littles’ wardrobes are filled with day-to-day basics from mega giants like H&M, Zara, GAP, J. Crew and the like. And that’s completely understandable; these kids grow approximately two feet per minute and it’s hard to keep up…both from a fashion point of view and a financial one. But once in a while, you need to perk up your basics with a few special pieces that let your little stand out from the Crewcuts crowd and show that mama knows her way outside the mall. It’s good for all of us, trust me. Here are three new kids lines you should know to help you do just that:

Natty. Natty is a collection of exquisite dresses for young ladies, with the quality, fabrics and attention to detail we appreciate as – ahem – older ladies. The cuts are modern and cool but also evoke an old-school sense of prim and proper style that will never go out of fashion. The designer, Natalie Lo (aka Natty from a young age), took her fond childhood memories of trips to Hong Kong where tailor-made clothing was seen on children as much as adults and turned them into a line of perfect special occasion picks for girls of any age. My favorites are the Pinafore Dress and the Cross Diagonals.

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Rylee & Cru. This super sweet collection of infant and toddler basics is the brainchild of Kelli Murray, an incredibly talented and lovely mama who lives here in SoCal with her two little ones, Rylee and, you guessed it, Cru. Kelli has long dreamed of turning her whimsical and cool illustrations into a kids’ clothing line and her dream is our happy reality. Each piece is lovingly hand garment dyed right here in California so they are super soft and cozy and the designs are so cute, you will wish they came in your size…especially this one.

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Finger in the Nose. As if the brand name wasn’t genius enough, this French collection of petite denim and sportswear pieces has a cool, je ne sais quoi kind of attitude that all kids can pull off fearlessly. These are rock ‘n’ roll meets preppy schoolyard essentials; think tailored jeans, graphic tees, parkas and hoodies…all the basics you typically find at the good old American mall, but with a French twist that you – and your kids – will love.

My Menu Plan

2015 January 11
by WWGD

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I spent a good part of the latter half of last week battling a head cold that came on like a storm: fast, intense and seemingly endless. But the good news is that it passed just in time for Sunday…glorious Sunday. So here is my menu plan for the week, the first one of the year, the first one I have shared in a while. I hope it inspires you to get into the kitchen this week:

Sunday – Golden Globes night. We are going to my mom’s for appetizers and champagne and red carpet watching. My dad’s famous homemade guacamole is on the menu. I will see if he will part with the recipe and share it here some day.

Monday – Giada’s pork tenderloin with honey mustard sauce, paired with roasted red potatoes and arugula. This pork has become one of our favorite, fast go-tos – it is SO easy and SO amazingly tasteful and relatively light. You need to try it, if you haven’t already.

Tuesday – I just got the first cookbook from blogger Gina Homolka, The Skinnytaste Cookbook, and it is packed with dishes I am dying to try. So many great, easy, lightened up versions of your favorite comfort classics. First one up is her skinny chicken parmesan, which I am planning to serve with roasted spaghetti squash, which has become our favorite pasta substitute for those nights when we are craving something a little less carb-y (yes, those nights actually exist…ha ha).

Wednesday – I am in Los Angeles for meetings so my family will be eating tacos in my absence.

Thursday – homemade chicken burgers with rosemary garlic mayo served with store-bought multi-grain onion rings. We like the ones from Alexia. These burgers don’t look very pretty in the picture but I watched her make them on her show the other day and I have been dreaming of them ever since…

Friday homemade pizza.

Lunch – I always struggle with lunches for some reason so I am trying to focus on incorporating more lunch-y recipes in my plans this year, to avoid relying on takeout as much as we do. This week I am going to make Gina’s crock pot chicken enchilada soup and hopefully it will give us a few days worth of lunch we can count on – and enjoy.

*image above is the homemade Orange Julius smoothie I made for a quick and yummy vitamin C fix last week. You can Google various recipes – I eyeballed mine and used approximately 1 cup of OJ, 1/3 cup of milk, 1 tsp vanilla, a big squeeze of agave (or honey) and like four or five ice cubes. It could have been a little more orange-y, but it was pretty darn good considering I could barely get out of bed to make it…and with that, I wish you a happy, healthy, head cold-less week ahead. 

What I Am Loving…Right Now

2015 January 6
by WWGD

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Between the gifts I so gratefully received from others during the holidays and those I gifted to myself (hee hee), I have lots of new goodies in the beauty drawer lately so thought it would be nice to share some of my recent favorites with you here:

First, L’Occitane Almond Shower Oil. This was a stocking stuffer from Santa this year but it had been on my wish list long before then. I love L’Occitane for many reasons: they are French, use essential oils and plant-based ingredients and have a simple, chic look that I appreciate. This Almond Shower Oil has the sweet, warm smell of almond oil that I love and turns into this rich, creamy wash in the shower that makes your daily ritual feel a little more luxe.

Caudalie Lip Conditioner. This was a gift to myself when I made my pitstop at the pharmacy in Montreal. French pharmacies are my favorite. High-end brands like Caudalie, Nuxe and La Roche Posay are drugstore staples across the Atlantic and they treat skincare as luxury, not laborious. This lip treatment is creamy and packed with antioxidants sans any parabens, phthalates or sulfates.

Bliss Fatgirl Soap. I am not a huge fan of the “Fatgirl” moniker but I am a fan of this bar soap from Bliss. It was developed to act as an exfoliating massage bar and its circulation-stimulating nubs and caffeine base are simply amazing. I don’t know that it actually made a visible difference to my problem areas, but the fresh peppermint scent and invigorating grapefruit extracts and jojoba beads make it a must-have nonetheless.

Finally, Tarte Amazonian Clay Mascara. I read this post from my friend Sarah and promptly went nuts on the Tarte Cosmetics web site, guilt-free. Beauty products that you can feel good about are a rare find, even in this day and age, and this mascara is definitely a new favorite on my must-have list. It’s just a really good mascara that makes you feel pretty, but it’s also powered by all-natural ingredients like rice wax and Amazonian clay, preventing lash loss and promoting lash health. If that doesn’t scream “must-have” I don’t know what does.